Why is the victim silent about injustice?… When a major case is discovered, or when one of the victims cries out for people to hear his voice and complaints, complaining about the injustice he has been subjected to, we are divided between supportive and liar, and we support the denial by the long silence that hid behind him, and he did not present his case or declare it in front of everyone and defend it, but some talk About being a coward, not worthy of that right that he came to ask for because he was silent from the beginning, forgetting some things that might make his situation devolve into what happened, and silence and concealment prevail, when someone tells you at the age of twenty.
Why is the victim silent about injustice?
For example, that his parents used to beat him in childhood and that he feels unjust, You will wonder and ask him why he was silent, why he did not tell an uncle or a relative, forgetting the factor of childhood that makes his fear greater than anything, and his lack of proper conduct.
Factors that cause the victim to remain silent
Age of the victim at the time of the accident
The age of the victim when injustice was committed against her, whatever the type of that injustice, is one of the factors that affect his choices in seeking his right or even at least reporting the injustice he was subjected to. Rights require that someone tell him or ask for help, and more so if he is wronged by his parents, for example, this leads us to another important point.
The influence of the oppressor and his position in the life of the victim
If the oppressor is a father or a mother (and what is more wrong with fathers and mothers because they think that the lives of their children belong to them), or a person who controls an individual’s life or may hinder progress in his future, then it is very difficult for the victim to speak about the injustice she has been subjected to either Fear or affection, and this is what often happens in rural environments in Egypt, where the brother deprives his sister of her legitimate share of the inheritance or prevents her from taking it, and the sister finds herself silent and does not revolt and does not demand her right.
This may seem passive or condescending, but the fact is that a sister regards her brother as another father, or a bond she cannot lose for so little (or even a lot!) It considers that a brother cannot be compensated, as well as a student who is subjected to injustice by a university professor, and prefers silence, instead of being subjected to the professor’s tyranny during his stay at the university.
The gender of the victim
The gender of the victim – whether he is male or female – greatly controls the degree of courage he has. For example, some girls may be afraid to disclose harassment at work, lest their reputation is tarnished, or everyone tells them that they are the cause, or make them afraid of the oppression of the employer, because females in our societies She is raised as always at fault, or that she is too weak to take her right, so she grows up and has a complete belief that she will not be able to take her right, so she prefers silence. Then, when she is assured of support, she talks about the injustice that has befallen her, and there the question is asked why silence was from the beginning.
The belief of the oppressed that he is the cause of the injustice that has befallen him
Either because society portrays it to him, or he feels that he is a partner in injustice, and this is what the perpetrator does to him: when a girl is harassed, she shuts up for fear that someone will say that she is guilty because she wears such or such, or because she comes back late.
Or because he fears for his grades, or because he himself sees this, perhaps due to a feeling of inferiority that plagues him, so he bears injustice because he deserves it only, and does not seek to take his right.
This may cause a defect in the upbringing of children; Because parents since childhood have been carrying them mistakes that are not their own, so the children grow up and the parents’ voice diminishes, or it disappears, but the children acquire this voice and become their inner voice, so they do not pay injustice from themselves, because it tells them that they deserve that torment because of something they do not know.
Believing that injustice is a test
In popular beliefs, there is a culture that every injustice that a person is subjected to is a test from God who has to be patient in order to obtain the reward. Perhaps this belief stemmed from so that people stop taking risks and demand their rights from those who are more powerful than them, and perhaps because they are unaware of the affliction that we have no control over and we cannot pay. , to the problems that we can handle and fix, the right of the victim may be lost because he considers that the determination to defend his right is anti-destiny.
Fear of losing fake privileges
We find that in the sons who postpone arguing with their parents that their way is causing them harm and they do not like it, because they are afraid that they will deprive them of some unreal privileges, and some wives fear that too, thinking that what an abusive husband gives them is better than what she will get when you leave him, or take A decisive decision about him, therefore, she prefers to be subjected to injustice, than to make her decisions by confrontation, which is not cowardice, but rather a natural fear, but beware of turning into a permanent cordon and the only escape from confrontation, and decisiveness.
“What Happens For My Good”
Some fathers succeed in embellishing the harm they inflict on their children by telling them that the punishment I inflict on you and the insult that I am addressing to you is only for your own good, in order that you may become a virtuous man or a better woman, so children swallow up hurt and insults, but it is, in reality, does not exceed harm, even if it is harm decorated with a lot of love and friendliness, because proper upbringing and respect for children do not contradict but rather nurture each other, but when these concepts are broadcast in the minds of children from childhood they will grow up and they see nothing but that, so it is thought that the teacher’s harsh punishment For the sake of his interest, and that the manager reprimands him in front of colleagues for his own benefit, and that her husband abuses her for the sake of interest, which results in silence about the abuse because the victim thinks it is in the interest.
Why does the victim suddenly explode?
The victim suddenly explodes demanding the right that was stolen from her because she was subjected to some trauma, or other experiences, or concepts other than the one she was used to, or because she felt that she was supported and that she would receive support and not blame, so you find girls recently talking about everything that happened to them because the role of social media It became tangible, so they could talk freely about what had happened to them because they had support and the law was on their side; So the victims explode and talk about the injustice that happened to them.
Such that the victim is exposed to a different experience that teaches her what she should do, such as the presence of women who have been abused by husbands for seminars on unforgivable matters, which have no name but abuse, or even the subjection of some individuals to psychological treatment that necessarily changes their view of life And renews the concepts they know, or even exposure to a situation similar to theirs and follows the victim’s reaction to it, the victim who takes a firm stance, a violent reaction occurs inside him, making him rethink his concepts again, and re-evaluate things, in that case, he rethinks what happened, and reopens the files And in that step we must support him, not marvel at the reaction.