How your inner critic can make you a better writer…You know your inner critic, it’s the voice inside that tells you that you’re not good enough, that your writing is nonsense, that you’re crazy when you think anyone wants to read a word of what you’re writing. It’s the voice that guides you when you’re so close to victory, it’s the annoying feeling that your dream is stupid, but you really want to go after it anyway!
I know this voice because it tormented me for most of my childhood. Fortunately, when I was young, I learned that it doesn’t have to be this way.
How your inner critic can make you a better writer
Every coin has two sides
When you vacillate between two equally good decisions, how do you decide what to do? Flip a coin. If it’s a king you’ll grill a steak, if it’s a letter you’re baking a casserole. It’s not just about the food, it’s about the choices. When both are good, you can stand the hesitation forever. Then you are no better off than a leaf in the wind.
You are not helpless and you can decide, even if you just flip a coin, your voice is yours, it’s in you. Like it or not, you can’t make him disappear, but you can teach him how to behave. I was able to control my negative voice as I replaced my old assumptions with better ones. My old assumptions were a lot like anyone experiencing self-doubt, fear, and insecurities.
- You’re not good enough.
- You’re unimportant.
- Nobody cares about you, and they never will.
Did you notice anything about those phrases?
They are framed as absolute provisions.
Here’s what I mean. I did not give conditions to these statements. I didn’t say, “If you were an artist, you probably wouldn’t fit into the accounting convention.” This is very specific and clear, and it is absolute only in those circumstances. When you say, “I’m not good enough,” you’re implying that’s true everywhere, all the time.
Find a better tire, look at the world on a case-by-case basis, you don’t have to fit in everywhere you fit well in places and more like a jigsaw puzzle than a square trying to fit into a world of round holes.
Now let’s deal with your inner critic, who can really be on your side – believe it or not – In this article, we’ll look at what can make your critic your best friend rather than your worst enemy.
Your critic is a filter, not a destroyer
Kilns heat things up and all ovens are not alike, some ovens are for pottery and you can put your art in time to create a masterpiece, and it can be used to turn your loved ones into ashes.
What kind of fire is your inner critic?
It depends on what you are using and you can use it to make you better or make your situation bitter, and you can use it to make you better with just a few simple steps.
First: write your draft quickly
Give yourself a boost and don’t stop thinking, don’t check for typos on the way, and don’t get distracted. Push, this is a racetrack, not a scenic highway, put down these words and don’t worry about speed, there is no freeway.
Your inner voice can criticize you while you’re emptying your draft
That’s fun, it’s like jumping in a river, you get refreshed by getting into the water if you stop worrying about how cold the water is, or else you’ll be on deck forever, once all your words are on paper, take a break and eat, take a nap if I was at it, you might be tired after all that effort. Anyway, give your brain time to reset, then count and adjust.
Now let’s look at the point of editing
You’re not here to tear yourself apart, you’re editing your words, you’re looking for the effect – precisely the effect you meant when you sat down to write, did it evoke the reader’s feelings? Ask yourself: How can I maximize the effect? How can I use these words to achieve my goal? Then give him everything you have. And please, don’t forget to be enthusiastic, your liquidation is here, not your destruction. There is a world of difference.
Second: Your critic is your inner guard
When you write with enthusiasm, your spirit spills out without inhibitions, and you might say something bad because you shine in your draft, you might miss it. Well, don’t worry about it, your inner critic can sort it all out, and when you come across something you’ve written that makes your critic stop at it, ask yourself one question: Should I say this? If you’re going to say it in public where someone could punch you, go for it. If you have no doubts, you shouldn’t say it, don’t. If you are not sure you can leave it.
I cannot guarantee that no one will offend you. And who knows? Your enthusiasm can give you the punch you need to reach your reader when you need it most. Let your inner critic stop you from having a broken nose, but don’t let it stop you from telling the truth or making an impact.
Third: Your critic has your best interests at heart
Your critic is a part of you, he will always be by your side, he is not trying to sabotage you but he really wants the best for you. He may not always know what to do, but let’s be honest we all do our best, and sometimes a critic is worth listening to. Here’s how to find out.
● Can you believe this makes me better?
● Will this idea destroy everything?
● How is this in my best interest?
When you answer these questions, you are using your head rather than your feelings, you are responding rather than reacting. Oftentimes, you will find yourself too daring to shrink your critic.
We all work to survive, our intentions are usually good (at least as we define them) so when your critic starts screaming, stop and understand. Stop to hear what he’s really saying, were you hurt? Is there an error? What can we do to correct this error?
- You’ll do this over and over again throughout the course of your work, the more you do, the less time you’ll need to finish. What you do when you talk to your critic and question his assumptions is prepare new mental paths. If you are going to get stuck, why not make him serve you instead of hurt you?