Sorry, I’m not a perfect mom… I’m not a perfect mother. Yes, I say it. I say it without fear of society, without fear of the opinions of those around me, without fear of the looks of women around me, to be a mother in my society means to be a sacrifice, to identify with the requirements of your children, to associate every atom of air in your breath with your children, to forget your requirements, You forget about your needs, you only think about children, everything is about children.
Sorry, I’m not a perfect mom
Being a mother in my community means that you give up your passion, your hobbies, your work, for you have no passion more important than your children, no hobby you practice is better than taking care of the young, no work and no future is more important than serving dinner, washing dishes, assembling toys, and washing clothes, in my community. They measure your femininity and motherhood by the extent to which your desires fade in front of the desires of children.
Sorry, society, I am not a perfect mother. I do not have the honor to be a perfect mother in your eyes, excuse my society for having my dreams, for having a working life that I want to maintain and succeed in, excuse my society for not completely sacrificing for the complacency of women and men.
Personally, I do not consider that there is a difference between male and female, so why should we differentiate between male and female in education, since I learned about my first pregnancy, the gender of the fetus did not concern me, and I do not remember that my first child was a boy that it had a significance or effect on me, so I made sure to teach him from a young age how to take care of himself, how to change his clothes, how to carry a plate of food to and from the table, how to take care of his personal hygiene without help, all these simple things that any human being who considers this in my society as ingratitude from me, lack of tenderness, lack of help, must learn Attention, wanting not to take responsibility, dear reader, imagine that my attempts to make him an independent person are always met with resistance, so they rush to meet his needs, which he already knows how to do, and he is, at last, a child, so he takes advantage of the matter to get more play and pampering. Is the fault on the child, or on the adults who provide unnecessary assistance?
Since I started studying media and I have had a clear dream “to be one of the most famous pens in the Arab world” and about six years ago I started the journey, I strive the time to achieve my dream and reach my goal, I love my work very much and find comfort in writing.
After the birth of my second child, 99% of my acquaintances among family and friends asked me to leave work to devote themselves to the child, forgetting that this is my most important and greatest passion, that writing is my refuge and my refuge, and that my work is a ship for me from the sea of depression and feeling of failure, the important thing is to be the image of the sacrificing woman, who gave up her work for the sake of the children, and this is what I decided to reject altogether and in detail, and I was often accused of negligence because of it, but I do not care.
One of the things that the mothers of my generation are held accountable for is the comfort provided by technological progress. I remember that my mother had previously told me that we are a spoiled generation because we have single-use nappies, as well as automatic washing machines that wash and dry clothes, and this is what the old generations did not have, and therefore We should never complain because we did not suffer the same, by the same logic you will find someone who blames the mother who demands one hour for herself a day to drink a hot drink, to sleep, or even to surf the Internet, you will find someone who looks at the mother disapprovingly if she decides to go to the gym, or a gym Beautician, or going out with girlfriends.
The mother must be tormented, indigestible, robbed of health and time, or else she will become a bad mother, not giving the children enough attention…
Imagine living all the time fighting on all fronts, imagine that the first person to blame you is a woman of your kind, and you in the women’s groups on social networking pages are the biggest example. By neglect, if you ask for advice in anything or talk about any achievement, you will find someone who will respond to her that what you do is nothing compared to others and what they give their children.
The mother in our society is always under accusation, she is always remiss whatever she does or does, the mother in our society and in our time will never find comfort unless she adopts the approach that is comfortable for her, for the sad, stressed mother can never make a happy home and family. So be yourself and don’t care about other people’s opinions, be proud that you’re not a perfect mom.