My mom never told me how I would feel after getting married. This is how I felt.
I am just one month into my marriage and am already planning to run into some corner of the world and hide there forever! I think I had had this feeling right after a week or so.
My mom never told me that
There is always a chance I am going to be married off to a joint family. I didn’t know that I will have to adjust with everyone and that everyone includes your spouse’s nieces and nephew. You are no longer single and you don’t have a life for yourself! The moment you got married, you have sacrificed your life for the welfare of others.
I am going to be homesick. She never told me that I will miss everything I used to do, especially lying on my bed without any worries. She never told me that I will feel emotional, depressed, irritated, moody, and every other thing and I might even cry the whole day in the bathroom.
I will try very hard to please everyone without even understanding that not everybody can be pleased.
I will have to develop new habits which I have never had for these past 24 years.
There is always a chance that your new life partner (the only link to this new family) will go to the office early in the morning and return only by night, just fully exhausted and ready to sleep. My mom never told me that sometimes when there are guests you might not even get a private moment with him.
I will have to be dependent on another person which is very difficult especially because I always try to be independent.
Even if everyone here (in-laws) were to shower me in love, I will still feel empty.
I will feel LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!
There is always a chance that my husband might have a married brother. I couldn’t understand why everybody is prioritizing and valuing his brother’s wife more than me. My mom never told me that it’s because she has been here for 8 years than me. I am the new bride, so I wanted to be the centre of attention.
My co-sister will always see me as her competitor and even create silly problems because of her insecurity.
There will be a lot of people around and I even talk to them in a very casual mood. Yet I feel very lonely deep inside. (I was alone at home but never felt lonely).
I will reduce my talking to one word from paragraphs, just answering if someone asks me something.
Relatives visit us not for a family gathering but to grade me on how well am performing as a homemaker.
I should gossip, be talkative, and engage in every conversation. I have to know everything about everybody. People will grade me as the “BEST DAUGHTER-IN-LAW only if I do these things.
People will judge me, no matter what I do or how I behave.
I complained to my mom about these things.
Guess what she told me?
life is all about adjusting and a little bit of closing your eyes, ears, and mouth towards what you don’t like.
She also told, “But one thing, there is no greater treasure than a husband who is loving, understanding, and supportive. So be happy!!”
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