“Is it hard taking care of two kids, Mama?” my beautiful 6-year -old asked me one afternoon. I turned to her and looked at her eye and honestly didn’t know what to say.
Before I arrived at my answer
it’s hard to admit that, raising kids is not an easy task – more so for a working mom. While away for work, I entrust the care and upbringing of my two precious little ones to a sitter. The nanny comes in every day and makes sure the kids are well taken care of. Worrying about the kids while at work is unbearable. I worry about their meals, their water intake, the things they do that could put their lives at risk.
At the same time, I have to make sure that I don’t negotiate the quality of my work outputs. I spend lunch break talking to my 6-year-old to ask about how her day has been so far. Also to constantly remind her to take care of herself and her little brother. I go right back to hustling hard at 1:00 p.m.
By the time I come home from work at around 5:30 in the afternoon, my body and mind are already exhausted. Even before I could change clothes, my 1-year-old is already holding out his hands for me. My beautiful little 6-year-old on the other hand couldn’t wait to chop my ears off with tales about her day.
So I get inside our bedroom to change tucking a 1-year-old in my hip and holding a six-year-old on the other. I don’t even get a minute to stretch out on the bed to shake off all the work blues before starting with my main job – mothering. I happily participate in all of these because the kids’ smell after a long day at work is enough to get me going for another shift at home.
Thank God for sitters, our dinner is ready by the time we get home. All I have to do is spend a few minutes with the kids before I have to set the table up for supper. I also have to do the dishes right after. My husband plays with the kids while I tidy up the house. I also have to make sure that my 6-year-old is able to do her daily school task. This includes answering school modules and lots of bickering and voice raising in between.
By 8:30 p.m., my husband and I exchange roles as I put the littlest one to sleep while he gives the elder child more playtime. Once the youngest is asleep, I go back to playing with the elder child. I try and let our little girl go to bed before 10:30 p.m. After this, the husband and I have to make sure the entirety of the inside of our home is clean and tidy before we both get time for ourselves.
This is about the only time we get to stretch our bodies out after a long day. We talk about our day, we sip coffee from one cup and try to make light of everything we both go through raising two beautiful angels from God. Sometimes we just sit together and comb the internet individually. We usually call it a day at about 12:00 midnight. The cycle begins again the next day at 5:00-5:30 a.m., depending on how soon the little boy gets hungry for milk.
Is it hard taking care of two kids?
It all sounds so exhausting, it certainly does feel exhausting. But the in-between moments are more than enough to make up for the exhaustion. Little, chubby fingers laid on my cheeks. Round, innocent eyes looking up at me. Soft and smelly arms wrapped around me as tightly as if the world could end any minute. These are the moments I live for. All those long, sleepless nights are nothing compared to when sticky little hands gently and lovingly hold my cheeks. The exhaustion is nothing against the sight of them sleeping peacefully fills me with all things nice. Inhaling their scent makes me forget about being tired.
So, I must admit. Raising and taking care of kids is not easy. But it is definitely worth it.