What is anxiety and how can I deal with it?
You are familiar with the word. For the record, anxiety as a whole constitutes fear or apprehension about something that’s about to happen and constantly worrying about it. Here’s something interesting: you may have anxiety for no reason at all.
I am a medical student and what I read a few days back is making me write this.
This is what I read when I was preparing for a test of the Gastrointestinal tract (git) anatomy:
“People experiencing severe chronic anxiety are most prone to the development of peptic ulcers. They often have gastric acid secretions that are markedly higher than normal between meals.”
Do I know anxiety?
If you think you have never known anxiety, recall waiting for your turn to interact with someone in front of a few people. Remember calling out “here” during the roll call, or when the teacher called your name to read out a paragraph. What was that strange acidic feeling, that shiver through the body? Now you know.
When to take it seriously?
Worrying about a pending bill or about getting your relationship back on track is fine, rather productive I’d say. Because the fact that you care is going to help you solve and get through it. What is chronic anxiety disorder then? The following signs and symptoms will help you:
- Having anxious thoughts, such as:
- I’m having bad luck
- I’m such a goof. I should have never questioned like that. I should have kept shut.
- Everyone makes fun of me. I have the least IQ and no talents at all.
- The meeting went well but that was just a stroke of luck.
- I should not go out or I will have an accident.
- This person is trying to get out of the conversation with me. He thinks I’m boring, insecure, and attention-seeking.
2. Expecting and assuming the worst-case scenario.
3. Avoiding people’s interaction or escaping conversation with people.
4. Assuming that nobody pays attention to you as if you are invisible.
Do I need to take this seriously? And Why?
This article is not to make you worry more, as you already are. This is about making you worry once and for all. Yes. To make you realize that it’s time to stop worrying. But why? Why should you work on this, since it is very common and apparently need not be taken seriously?
This is why:
- Anxiety is socially destructive. It makes you mistrustful. You begin to believe that people are lying to you and that you are unlikeable. You are not enough and never would be. It makes you an insecure mess, who is running from work and people interaction because you don’t think you are sufficient.
2. Research links anxiety disorders to death from suicide
3. Symptoms of anxiety mimic physical illnesses, which means mental illness often displays as a physical illness because the mind and body are very intimate.
“People with anxiety disorders are up to five times more likely to visit a doctor and six times more likely to be hospitalized for psychiatric disorders than those who do not suffer from anxiety disorders.”
How do I deal with anxiety?
The whole point is how to deal with anxiety. Here we can go through the maximum number of ways that may help you with this. You never know what works for you the best.
Don’t aim for perfection
Do your best. And appreciate yourself for doing great. Set small goals. Congratulate yourself for achieving them. Accept the fact that no one is perfect. Also, you are not born to be perfect. The real courage is to be the weird yourself.
The way you treat your pet if you have one, or your child is the way you should treat yourself. Be a gentle parent to yourself. Forgive yourself. Give yourself a margin.
- Exercise daily with a friend or a colleague especially. Start with 15 minutes a day.
- Take balanced meals. Respect yourself. Eating healthy is a form of self-care.
- Take deep breaths, whenever it comes to your mind.
Take some time out of your busy as a bee routine for meditation or yoga, or to talk with a friend or a family member. In fact, you can do anything you enjoy doing at this time. Think of this as an investment in yourself.
Write it all down
Think of all the things that make you anxious. Or better to take paper and jot them down. Now put thorough thought in each one of them. Categorize them into solvable and unsolvable ( 80% of them will be those you can do nothing about). Accept the fact that it’s of no use worrying about them. No doubt, It’ll take time to get to the point where you don’t worry about the things you can’t change but start today. Be mindful. This will surely help.
Last but not least: Positive thoughts. Think good things. Talk about only the good things that happened to you. You’ll begin to realize that you are one of the most privileged and blessed people in this world.
Hope this helps!
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