Boys Don’t Cry!
Hamza Iqbal Chughtai
When you take away the toys of a 4-year-old boy, he cries. When you hurt him, he cries. When you leave him alone, he cries. When he falls, he cries, and when he fights or gets angry, or when his expectations are not fulfilled, he cries. He cries just like a 4-year-old or 20-year-old girl does. However, what I don’t understand is that when boys are growing up, they are continuously told that crying is girlish. “Crying is a sign of weakness. It is for little boys. Crying is for burger boys.” A boy’s tear symbolizes weakness, and boys are supposed to be strong. I am sure most of the boys have heard their peers saying, “don’t cry. Are you a girl?”
This is wrong on so many levels. Having constantly being told to keep our emotions inside and not instantly expressing them lead to traumatic events. As a result, boys spend their lives hiding their emotions. It makes most of the adult boys emotionally frustrated. Some of us don’t even know how to respond to emotional situations. When we should cry, we are not able to bring ourselves to tears, and sometimes we cry all of a sudden, without even knowing why we are crying.
Crying is one of the best therapies. We should cry when we feel like crying because it will bring out our hurt and frustration, and then we will feel better. Not crying when we should causes our hurt and frustration to keep building up inside, resulting in more mental frustration and emotional instability.
Society wants boys to prove their masculinity daily by following their stigmas and stereotypes. Crying is not a sign of weakness, and it’s not girlish. The way society labels things according to genders is a very toxic practice which needs to cease immediately. We should break these bogus stereotypes. Do not act according to what people tell you but act according to your instincts. Crying is an instinct that just shows that we are humans just like girls are, and feelings are not gender-specific.
Indeed, we all are humans before being classified into boys or girls! Never be ashamed of crying neither alone nor in front of anyone.