Alright, here you are, your relationship just ended or it could have ended a long time ago but somehow everything seems to be taking you back to your ex, you did so many things together it just seems you can’t do anything anymore without thinking about them and reminiscing about all those times you spent together. If you want to put them behind you and get along with your life, read the steps in this article.
Let Yourself Go Through The Pain
Before you think yourself a crazy obsessed psychopath, you need to know that whatever you are feeling is normal. Wanting to hear your ex’s voice, stalking them on social media, wanting to see whether or not they are happy without you, or whether they have replaced you, or wondering whether they are thinking about you, or even going to their place at night just to see their house (okay, I may be a little crazy) hoping it will help you sleep better. It’s all normal reaction, think of your feelings as withdrawal symptoms, because they are. One of the most important steps to moving on is acknowledging that you are hurt, of course, you’ll probably be in denial the first time, but eventually, you’ll have to accept that it did bruise your heart a little, the best way is to talk about it with someone you trust or someone who would understand. Let the process take control and allow your heart to hurt, this is necessary. Remember this takes time, especially if it’s your first or if this was the longest relationship you’ve ever had.
Focus On Yourself
During this period, you are prone to thinking about yourself far less than you think about your ex, you begin to think of them as perfect, forgetting or completely overlooking all their flows; they are not perfect and you need to distance yourself from the thoughts of them, stop talking about them or even try to figure out whose fault it was because it won’t do anyone any good. Think of you and your life, and even if you can’t go back to how you were before you met them you can still find a new life, maybe one that is even better. Take care of yourself, go to the gym, read a book, write a book, or whatever hobbies you have. If you like traveling then this would be the perfect time to do so. Go out with friends, if you don’t have friends now would be a good time to go out and meet some new people. Plant a flower grow a garden, do anything that makes you happy without them. Do not resort to destructive behavior like drinking or gambling, instead of doing things that bring you at ease, things that make you relax.
After you’ve completely gotten over your ex, you are going to have to let new people into your life. One of the mistakes that people make is saying, “Oh, after what happened with my ex, I don’t think I could ever trust anyone ever again.” While you can think this, though I advise you not to, you should not tell this to your new partner or prospect, it puts them under pressure and often things go wrong. Don’t compare everyone you meet to your ex, just give them a chance to show their worth. Know that all relationships have problems even when they appear perfect on the surface, find a way to make your relationship work.