If you are reading this, congratulations, you just messed up your relationship; you pushed an amazing girl into the hands of a total stranger(or not such a stranger), and now, you’ve realized just how much you love her and decided to get her back. Well, you are in luck. Here I explain to you the five things you need to do in order to win her back, but your success will depend on how well you execute them and how badly you screwed up.
Figure Out What Went Wrong
Before you even think of getting her back, it is crucial that you think back and try to find exactly what went wrong. Was it you? Was it her? And try to find a solution for the problem otherwise you’ll just be back here again, reading my article. If it was you, then you need to fix it, if it’s some misunderstanding you need to find a way to make her see it, if it’s her fault then it doesn’t matter how much you want her you just need to let her fix it, otherwise you will be a dummy( and we don’t want that).
Never Beg Her To Take You Back
Now, I know you want to get her back and you wrick of desperation, but you should never let her know this, under no circumstances should you let her see it; telling her you have changed and all that. This will immediately throw her off, as you will come off childish, selfish, and quite frankly a jerk. She will think you don’t take her seriously like she is some boomerang that you can just toss around and expect it to come back. Always play it cool, but not so much that you ignore her.
Let Her See The Change In You
While you should try to maintain the things you did when you were together, you should go out of your way to make her see how much you have changed, how much you respect her, how much you value her. Do it most subtly, maybe if you had a secret way of communicating, use it. Don’t buy her gifts to win her over, you’ll be insulting her, instead, take her out, nothing fancy, maybe her favorite restaurant or preferably, your favorite restaurant as a couple. Just to keep her memories of you intact.
Don’t Trush Talk Her New Boyfriend
You may think making him look bad will make you look good, but this is wrong, you can tease her about one characteristic that he has That you know she hates, but that’s it. Never tell her how much better than him you are, she should see it herself. Never ask her to break up with him, that’s her decision to make. You would just be bothering her and putting her under a lot of pressure.
Never Respect Her New Relationship
If you want her back, never tell her crap like, “I’m so happy for you” or “I hope he makes you happy” do not. She is your woman, no one can make her happy except you, no one can treat her like you do, and not even Trevor Noah can make her laugh as hard as you do, so put those big boy pants on and hold your station. If possible, act like the other guy doesn’t even exist. She will remember how much fun she had with you and will starting thinking about you, and why she’s even in her new relationship.
Don’t let her new relationship progress, even if she doesn’t like him as much, the more time she spends with him, she will starting developing feelings for him, and thoughts of you will disappear. You will be old news. Call her regularly, for a walk or talk or even brunch. Whatever it takes to keep her memories of you fresh.