Is it selfishly putting yourself and your own needs first and ignoring everyone else’s?
Or is it the reverse? Does it mean loving other people with no regard to your own wants because “it’s better to give than to receive”?
Is self-love all about getting massages and wonder treatments every day? Shopping compulsively for each single fashion trend so you’re never left behind? Or traveling from one end of the world to the other, hopping from exotic beach to the next?
Is self-love marrying the man of your dreams and having 2 kids whilst living in a nice house in a nice suburb with a nice and very white picket fence?
None of these is self-love.
“You need to love yourself because no amount of affection from others is sufficient to fill the yearning that your soul requires from you” Dadansky.
Self-love is an indoor barometer of how you are feeling about yourself – body, mind, and soul.
If your self-love is low then it is impossible to love another. You will be looking for other ways to fill up the self-love hole. If your self-love is high, you can be unconditionally loving to all beings.
Self-love is an acceptance of our divinity which we are love. We came down into these human bodies — to have an experience of what it was like to feel slightly separated from LOVE. Kind of funny, huh? We are ONENESS (LOVE) experiencing itself through the separation experience of being INFORM.
Self-love doesn’t simply mean feeling good with yourself or doing things that cause you to feel good. Such activities are usually fleeting.
Instead, it’s a deep sense of appreciation for yourself that both nurture and are nurtured by your actions.
First love yourself then you follow your bliss. And because you follow your bliss, you’re keen on yourself even more.
Self-love is being happy with yourself. The good, the bad, the ugly-all of it, accepting and appreciating yourselves. Stop caring about what other people think of you because these people don’t matter. You are not wrong and you cannot keep thinking or worrying about what other people say. Don’t put yourself down. Self-love is feeling beautiful and not being aware of your body. See your flaws as assets or belongings you love about yourself. You are beautiful.
Self-love is believing in yourself when things get tough. It is knowing that you can always overcome a challenge or a struggle as long as you keep yourself together. It is also about having the courage to fight for what you want and to prevent others from making you a push-over. Sometimes self-love is extra squats, sometimes it’s extra cheese. self-love is need eyeliner, sometimes it’s acne treatment. self-love isn’t feeling pitying the people that love you, sometimes it isn’t feeling pitying yourself. self-love is wearing your strengths like a crown, sometimes it’s wearing your weaknesses like tattoos instead of scars. self-love is not being mad at yourself for making a mess, sometimes it’s cleaning it. self-love is planning a future, sometimes it’s just believing you have one. self-love is learning something new, sometimes it’s unlearning something old. self-love is fighting with yourself, sometimes it’s fighting for yourself. self-love is discovery, but every time, self-love is recovery.