Many of us have at some point in life had a nasty moment. It might have been when your teacher of chemistry told you to explain the mole concept. You had no idea and you felt so humiliated with yourself. You couldn’t face him in class and wished that time moved a little faster. Maybe it’s that poor class presentation. You were a victim of stage fright and your classmates laughed all through. This feeling of despair tamed you and you became dull in class. You had wanted to boost your confidence but You lost touch with everything.
One moment was enough to take away the confidence you had in front of others. Possibly, you gave up on yourself. You became a victim of the masses. The more you tried to boost your confidence the more you felt you are really not helping yourself. Discussed below are ways proven, tested, and are guaranteed to help you boost your confidence.
BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE THROUGH SELF MASTERY
For some people, lack of confidence may not necessarily have anything to do with preparedness. They just feel insecure. I have been there before and I know just how tough it can be. Self-mastery is a process. It will take you time to achieve it. One of the best ways to do this is meditation. Meditation teaches you to concentrate and listen to yourself.
You have to realize and accept that you are the problem. Nobody can help you much better than yourself. Therefore, you have to be your own master. Don’t let fear distract you. Neither should you worry much about the outcome. Some simple steps that will help you achieve this are
- Write on a piece on paper your weaknesses. Do this in detail so that you also describe how you feel when you are in front of others. Is it fear, is it anxiety or is it a tension that you feel?
- Now put down your strengths. In the case of the group presentation, try to remember your most favorite role. Were you the lazy member, were you just listening and had nothing much to offer, or were you the most active member?
For most people, their lack of confidence will be as a result of low participation. You have to understand that preparation is essential when boosting your confidence.
Mock presentations will also help you out a lot. You know when you talk to your imaginary audience. It prepares you for the real audience.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS / PSYCHE YOURSELF
You might not realize this but telling yourself “I can do this”, “This will be the best moment of my life” will actually help you grow. History becomes simple after reading your notes again and again. Your mind changes in accordance with your habit. You can use this to your advantage through affirmations. Just before an important function, remind yourself that you are the best.
Your confidence oftentimes relies on your cleanliness too. Imagine two of your course mates doing a presentation. As one finishes the conversation, a second one arrives, and suddenly everyone bursts out laughing. Of course, the thought that will cross his mind first is his dressing. Proper hygiene and dressing is essential in making sure that you are boosting your confidence.
ENGAGE WITH PEOPLE MORE OFTEN
Don’t just sit there, all alone, bored and forlorn. Mingle with two or three people. Make appointments with your teachers and supervisors. Meet with people and be free around them. Mentally, this helps to restructure your brain. It helps you to cope with people in their fullest, lowest, solemn, and vivacious moods. Thus, you learn how to handle people in different formal and social situations. This goes a long way in boosting your confidence.