…When to give Advice…
Some people are talented in giving advice. They seem to have a whole lot of counsel to give even when they are not solicited for. You might say that you feel you should advise someone about what you think they are doing wrong without putting certain points into consideration.
First, check one’s disposition and willingness to accept your advice before you give it. You may have the intention to help but to the fellow, you are overstepping your boundaries; this may heighten your relationship with such a person.
Secondly, give advice when it is solicited for. Stop looking for people to advise, but always be willing to give it when asked. Some people may pick offense with you when you offer unsolicited advice. So, keep your advice to yourself. You’re not advising g to prove that you’re right but because it was sought after and it will help to encourage and edify.
Thirdly, know your limits. When next you want to advise people, you may want to know the level of access they have granted you into their lives; this is what tells you how far you are permitted to interfere in their issues. You may unnecessarily become an enemy if you offer the wrong advice in areas where you are not let into.
You may also want to consider the quality of your life before advising people. Advice should not just be knowledge-based but experience and wisdom are key. As an unmarried person, you claim to perfectly know how to settle marital issues or claim to know how to raise kids whereas you’re not yet in a relationship not to mention being married. What more do I say to people who give tips on how to be a millionaire but beg their audience to buy their pamphlets?
In your dealings with people, it is wise to know the level of access they’ve given you into their lives so that you will know how far you can get involved in their private matters.
Always let people know their roles in your life so that they can try to play it to the best of their knowledge.
I know that some people like giving advice and looking for people to mentor, be careful. For me, I rather do those two out of conviction. If you’re convinced about it, focus on the goal and don’t pick offense along the way.
Bonus grow yourself before you give advice.