“Words are free. it’s how you use them that may cost you” – Kushandwisdom
Words are heavy, and almost (if not everyone) can attest to this fact. The irony of this is the fact that for something so heavy, it comes out from our mouths with so much ease. Words are so heavy they make or mar our entire existence, take or leave options that could have been available to us, accept or reject offers for us, and last but not the least open or close doors for us. While news about our choice of words accepting offers for us hardly circulates, news about the rejection of offers does make social media rounds regularly. The one-story that I can’t seem to get out of my head is that of a lady who landed an internship job at NASA and was probably so overjoyed she went on and on about it on twitter, without even filtering her words. She was so vulgar a particular person had to get her together about two times in vain. It turned out that person had a high position at NASA where she kept bragging about and had enough power to revoke her internship, an action which he took with immediate effect after her tweets.
Words people, have weight but is it possible for us to control them? The answer is yes. How? by thinking before we talk. While this may seem like a primary solution to a secondary problem, thinking about what we want to say before we say them helps to save us the embarrassment or bad luck that comes with uttering just any rubbish. For instance, that married couple that has no kids despite being married for so long, do you have to ask them why? Do you need to tell those people that have just lost someone that you know how they feel when in reality you’ve not lost someone so dear to you? Do you have to tell that beggar in your street that he/she needs to get a job when you don’t know the backstory? Do you need to body-shame that obese person just because you feel that person isn’t doing enough to lose weight? The difference between saying all of these out loud and keeping them to yourself is the pre-programmed thoughts that may have gone through our heads before we utter them. While the wise ones change their minds about speaking after these thoughts, the indiscreet ones still go ahead and ‘speak their minds’. No one is against you speaking your mind or anything, but what happens when you speak your mind insensitively towards people’s insecurities? Once again, everyone’s words are heavy so mind who you drop the load on.
Like every other thing that has advantages and also side effects, Words also tend to help people out. Words can be quite soothing and bring about relief. Knowing the right words to say to people can always get you that dream job, those freebies, and even a relationship, after-all relationships happen and work because of proper communication. The right words would clear misunderstandings, settle a fight, prevent violence, help to promote peace, as well as make us likable. However let’s be reminded that no matter how deceptive an environment or the words you want to say may seem, resist the temptation to say things carelessly. Always think before you speak. Thinking has never hurt anyone but words have, be thoughtful.