Never commit suicide! Life can get better! First, a good job of reaching out to express your feelings. When you’re feeling lonely or desperate, isolating yourself is the worst mistake you can make. When you’re lonely, scared, or desperate, it’s MOST important to reach out at that time to whoever you can–a crisis hotline, a counselor, a friend, a family member, whoever. That was a good first step and OF COURSE far better than hurting yourself. Now keep up the good momentum and reach out to people who are better able to help you.
1) Any time you are feeling like you’re about to hurt yourself or are immediately suicidal, go straight to the nearest emergency room and tell them you’re feeling suicidal and ask to be evaluated.
2) If you’re having suicidal thoughts, call a suicide prevention hotline in your respective country. You can find hotlines for most other countries at http://www.befrienders.org/.
3) Please make an appointment with a medical doctor soon and Explain to the scheduling person that it’s urgent regarding feelings of depression and suicide and that you need to be seen soon, in days rather than weeks. Ask them to try to squeeze you into the schedule somewhere.) During the visit:
a) Tell the doctor about your suicidal feelings.
b) Ask whether an antidepressant would be right for you.
c) Ask for a referral to a psychiatrist who can do counseling and medication management.
d) If you are having alcohol or substance abuse problems, ask for a referral to a treatment program.
e) If you are having trouble sleeping, ask the doctor whether Ambien or something similar would be right for you.
4) Then, call the mental health providers who your doctor referred you to and make an initial appointment to be evaluated. Interview two or three until you find one who you think you have good chemistry with.
5) Buy and read the book “Feeling Good” by David Burns, M.D. Do the exercises in that book. It’s a very readable presentation for the layperson like you and me of cognitive-behavioral psychology, a form of therapy that has been shown to be safe and effective for depression in controlled clinical trials. It’s helped millions; it may help you as well.
6) Studies have shown that regular exercise can be as effective as psychotherapy for the treatment of depression. Exercise at least three times per week for at least 30 minutes each. Brisk walking is a fine way to exercise, for example.
7) Eat three healthy meals on a regular schedule each day.
8) Sleep on a regular schedule. This will make it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep.
9) Take an over the counter multivitamin supplement daily to make sure you’re getting enough vitamins and minerals.
10) Call friends and ask to have lunch or coffee.
11) If your family relationship is OK, communicate with your family.
12) Find a volunteer activity that’s meaningful to you and get involved. It will put meaning into your life, distract you from your problems, give you the satisfaction of helping others, and cause you to meet other good people and make new friends.
13) Find a community activity that’s fun and get involved. It could be sports, art, exercise, hiking, nature trail conservation, whatever you like. Again, this will entertain you and cause you to meet others with shared interests and make new friends.
14) Read “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. It helped me; it may help you as well.
15) If you aren’t in touch with God already, I encourage you to pray and reach out to Him as well. For my part, my relationship with Christ has given meaning to my life and sustained me during my own darkest hours. You will also meet wonderful caring people and make new friends.
OK, good luck, and God bless you!