Let me tell you a fact which I got no rational stats to back with. So just believe me when I tell you that most teenagers on this planet at least once in their lifetime, get super sad. I am not talking about ‘fuck everything, ima just cry’ sad, that’s pretty common. I am talking about ‘I wanna kill myself’ sad, when ‘killing yourself’ is not just a figure of speech used daily when our smartphones run out of power, or when it’s a heat of the moment and you realize later on that it was a bad idea. It’s when you want to end it all not only because you got no hope but also got no one to live for. Usually, they have to deal with this type of circumstances on their own. But still, most of them don’t end up blowing their brains out, right? Not everyone who feels suicidal suicides. There wouldn’t be 1.2 billion teenagers alive then. So what’s stopping them?
it’s much worse than it looks
You are probably contemplating that they somehow magically decipher the meaning of life or get to see the ray of hope amidst the infinite darkness even when their parents and teachers and all those so-called ‘guardians’ ain’t got the slightest hint of their mental health? Or do they just grow out of this “stupid” idea? Nope, nein, nada. That’s pure horsecrap. Let me enlighten you with the truth. It’s because they know that they actually won’t cease to exist. There would be nothing, just nothing. Now that’s a feeling we all went through. Do you ever sleep and don’t dream? Then when you wake up do you realize what you did? You were just dead for 8 damned hours, or like when you cover your left eye and try to see through it, What do you see? Darkness? Light? No, you see nothing. And when someone is 16 years old and hasn’t even peaked his cognitive abilities; would certainly be afraid of this absolute nothingness. If by any chance they get to know that after we die we turn into some sort of soul that goofs around everywhere but, can’t interact with humans, then suicide rates would be sky high for sure. You actually can’t disprove this theory because there’s only one way to find out. And that is of really high risk. So just, fingers crossed.
An alternate way to deal with this issue that needs nothing but empathy
So well, why instead of talking about mental health care programs and making students save suicide hotline numbers in their contact list, I am talking about weird feelings? Because teenagers don’t like complex stuff to cure complex stuff. The hard part about teenagers is they have completely different and vivid emotional systems. There’s no way a full-grown adult can completely understand the fluidity of the teenage mind. All they can do is try. I don’t know how to put this but the thing is no matter how suicidal they are, they don’t want to die. Your job is just to make sure they never forget that.
Time to spread a bit of love
currently, in 2020 we are at the pinnacle of mental health issues. For a teenager, it’s mostly peer pressure following with expectations that contradicts with what they crave for. Adolescence is not only the pathway towards stable adulthood but also a time to enjoy a happy go lucky life instead of thinking less of ourselves.
They should know that there’s always something that is not okay and that’s okay. It’s okay if they don’t want to go to the prom or visit their aunt’s, it’s okay if they spend a whole day locked up in their room and it’s okay if they don’t care sometimes. The hard truth is teenagers aren’t social creatures cause society is created by adults and they are the only ones to care about it and its rules and regulations. So let’s just get to know about things they don’t care about and if it matters at all. In most cases, it won’t and then you just let it go. Let them be what they are unless it’s affecting themselves or others and let them know you are proud of them and always by their side. let them speak, embrace their weirdness, let them get embarrassed, and let them know it’s okay.
Teenage life is full of hopes and dreams and despairs. it’s not surprising when a teenager looks at the world and wonders how everything is working out except themselves, hence the start of deteriorating self-confidence and self-love.
When we are teenagers, we all have a hero in us trying to save the whole world. The only obligations of adults should be reminding them that it’s okay if it is not the whole world but only one person that we can save in our whole life. And it’s okay if that person is he.