When someone gets cancer, at least at first it feels like your life is over. Over a few weeks or months, you realize that it isn’t quite over yet, and you think about what you want to do during what time is left. You realize that one of the most important things that you are leaving behind are your children.
First of all, do well yourself. Take care of yourself. Do well in school if you are in school. Do well in your relationships and career.
Help him/her to plan to leave things in order. He might want help to clear out the stuff that is piled up in the basement. He might want to do some financial planning, such as planning for your mother/father and you to be okay after he is gone. He/She might have keepsakes that he/she would like to leave for you, and perhaps to explain to you where they came from and why they are important to him/her. Go over photos from his childhood, and look at old family stuff that he/she will be leaving behind. Find out what his passwords are so that you can access and possibly shut down his accounts after he is gone.
I’ve had a recent family member that was given a few months to live, and she wanted us to visit her as much as we can and forget about the family problems we all had towards each other.
Spend as much time as you can with your father, and try to avoid fighting/ making him upset. Take him on adventures and make nice memories with (of course taking into consideration if his health permits it). Try not to think about the time you have left and just make sure he knows how much you love him and appreciate him for everything he has done for you 🙂
Lastly, I hope he has many more years to spend with you guys. Its very good that he has years rather than days or weeks left. Try not to stress too much and enjoy the time you have left with your father.