The modern world pretends to respect both introverts and extroverts, but in reality, rewards and glamor are all designed to synchronize with the talents of those in the extroverted camp.
Extroverts seem naturally well suited to tasks such as to impress strangers, take part in conferences, make speeches, outshine competitors, manage people, join with prevailing enthusiasm, reflect public opinion, socialize, travel a lot, and go out frequently.
As for us introverts, we feel very worried before we go to parties, we feel close to death before we give speeches, any kind of social occasion disturbs us heavily, we are left extremely nervous by meetings with news and social media, we start feeling sick if we haven’t had the opportunity to sit alone and process our thoughts for a few hours every day, new places worry us tremendously.
Instead, we love to sit at home, we’ll be happy to spend a whole weekend in our own company with some books and a laptop, we just like about three people across the world, we love to explore various rooms in our heads, we don’t like to go to parties, we’ll never complain about things being too quiet.
All of this in the modern world can bring intense suspicion to bear upon us. Why are we all so shy? Why can’t we sing along with everyone else? Why don’t we just come out to celebrate? Others think we’re weird and strange long before they know we’re all very different from each other.
Being an introvert means making a group or a business meeting so stressful that we merely share our thoughts, instead, we wonder what everyone else has made out of what we’ve just said, we’re going to suspect we haven’t understood an important dynamic.
We can not just take in and move on with an angry text. We pause and reflect on the stuff we’ve read. We long for connection but relationships, especially at the beginning, are a minefield. What do they think of us? Are we allowed to express desire for them? Are they disgusted by us? No wonder we prefer staying with a book at home. We avoid being out there because what’s going on outside impacts us too excessively.
It sounds complicated but an introverted life can be truly rich and peaceful as well. So much less is needed for us to have enough. We don’t need noise and attention. We don’t care where the big party is. We just want to talk with the few people with whom we feel comfortable, go on walks, and have long showers. If we resonate properly, there can be so much more in life.