Growing up I had nothing to ask from this society yet it silenced me when I had something to ask. My parents, they loved me to a great deal but they feared the society more. I was just 9 when my teacher, who was in his 60’s, abused me. I was the same as the age of his grandchild, he still chose to do this to me. With his evil thoughts and his intentions, he deserved to be punished. when my parents got to know this they feared the society than to stand up for what had happened to me. They decided that the only better option was a hostel and they believed that it was the only place I will ever be safe.
I was sent to a boarding school at the age of 10. I completed my school and my university whilst staying in the hostel. why? what did I do? I was just another innocent victim who was punished for being a girl in this society. My sister who was just 7 was also sent to boarding school with me, so what happened to me does not happen to her. What did she do other than being my sister? She did not even know why she was being sent to a boarding school. She, like me, spent her entire studies away from our parents. We think we got independence long back but no we still did not get independence from this so-called norms of this society.
There are so many innocents like my sister and I are punished and our abusers are let free. My parents don’t want me to go for a job fearing workplace abuse. I am 23 now and I too am scared of men on the whole. I don’t know if my abuser is even alive but, all I know is that I have to spend the rest of my life in remorse.
We come across hundreds of articles about women’s abuse daily. It may be just news or a piece of article for the readers but a lifetime of sorrow for the victims especially when it is a child who doesn’t know what had just happened to her. Society will talk about it only for a week or a month. It is we girls who have to live with the consequences for the rest of our lives. I cannot change what has happened to me, but I can try to help others.
There are millions of women going through a lot of abuse even today all around the world. It is completely fine if no one stands for us we understand. All we ask you, the society, is to not label or criticize us when we stand for ourselves. You don’t know what happened so please don’t silence us.