Marriage & Children In Africa: What’s your take about marriage and children in Africa.
Does marriage have to do with baby making, or is it just based on the sweet love the partners shares?
In a simple stance, and based on your African mind, Have you ever asked yourself the sole reason behind marriages?
Is it based on the two love birds that came together as one?
Or is it because they want to be called by a child’s name?
Let’s deliberate on this :
What is marriage: The legally or formally recognized union of two people becoming partners in a personal relationship.
In other words, it’s a union between a man and a woman.
In a biblical view, it means one mortal life fully shared.
Let’s look at marriage this way, At the first stage it’s about two promising individual coming together to share one mind, one body with love.
I repeat just “two individuals”, At this point they could only think of themselves, viewing love in each other’s eyes, there was no third party, And I must say “NO BABIES”.
What is child or children: A child is a person you have given birth to, your son or your daughter.
Even the “Bible” made us understand the importance of children in every home, There’s no joy like having a child.
And in our “African homes” we were made to understand that children is the joy of any marriage.
This is where I want us to examine thoroughly:
Right from the days of our fathers they made us understand or should I say they planted that mentality in us that children is the sole joy of any home.
It was more like a culture, that the reason why people should get married is to make children, because they feel that’s the necessity, to have children surrounding your table, children to send on errands.
Of course children are the blessing of any marriage, watching them grow gives you joy.
But let me ask, Should it be the sole reason for a beautiful home.
I believe every home wants a child to call theirs, But does that means every home have the privilege of having a child?
Ask yourself why must a barren woman suffer emotionally, and physically just because she couldn’t bear a child in a marriage that was supposed to be built on love because of a “mentality”?
Yes, we all know the importance of children in our society; But should it he the reasons for broken homes and hearts?
I though marriage was based on love, should the non ability to bear a child dissolve such love?
Take this stance, If children is the sole reason to love and marriage, then why do we still have children outside wedlock, where the man would insist on not marrying the lady despite the fact that she’s carrying his child, Does it mean he’s not seeing love in her eyes and even a child can’t be the reason why he would love her still?
Should a man who love his woman dearly, or should a woman who love her man dearly dissolve a marriage because of the in ability to bear a child?
Should we allow society dictate for us?
Where was the first love?
The first attraction?
Does it means all they saw at first sight wasn’t love but baby making?
Should children be the sole reason for love and marriage?
Your opinion counts.