Most of us tend to either stuck in their past or completely ignore it and worry more about the future. The core of questioning here is what if one could stick to both and still lead a happy life? Of course, there has to be plenty of phases and steps in order to get there, but after all it is worth to try.
At first, one needs to understand that their past is gone and they have to be completely done with in terms of feelings of guilt or regret. Also, they should regard the past life events as a basis of their present life and it is their past which brought them to where they are today; regardless of the level of its negativity or positivity. Because, learning valuable lessons was never presented on silver plates, if not most of the time. If one decides to forget their past, they are simply deleting a part of their identity. Just like their names and birth dates, their childhood, adulthood or whatever stage they would be at, they cannot get remove it. Even if they succeed doing so, they will still feel vacuum in their inside, a vacuum created by that forcefully deleted past.
Now, when it comes to the future, it is typically “the unknown” part of humanity. So, if one worries about it and makes it their biggest concern, they must be missing a lot of great and lovely moments in their present. “Live the moment” is not just a saying but could be a principle that one ought to adopt in order to live at least decently and less worried. For instance, insecurity comes from the fear of the future. But if one meditates and gives it a deep thought, it is not that bad. The unknown could likely be a source of hope! Yes, Hope! – capitalized because it is key to life. Instead of fearing the unknown, one could simply hope for the best coming up because they have so much time to spend and opportunities to cease before it comes. See, when one does not know what is going to happen but then daydream, set goals, work hard, await results, plan for their projects’ launch, engagement or marriage, though no one of them is actually sure if that specific day will see light.
Therefore, the gap between the past and future should not be there in one’s life because it will keep them from achieving so many great things in life.